How to Find a Mentor
Let’s face it, at the end of the day nobody really knows what is about to come next in their life or exactly how their current actions will result in an outcome. We may think we have the right answers to our journey, but how do we know for sure? A mentor is an individual with wisdom and experience that aims to guide the mentee. In other words, a mentor has previously taken the path that the mentee is traveling and seeks to make sure the mentee is aware of any potential roadblocks or shortcuts on the way.
Studies have shown that people with a mentor are more likely to succeed on their journey and do so in a shorter duration of time for a variety of reasons. For starters, mentors have experience in life in general as well as specifically where you need guidance. Whatever it is that you are struggling with, your mentor usually has run into the same or a similar problem and was able to overcome it. This experience is important because it will help prevent the mentee from making time-consuming mistakes that may affect the end goal.
Aside from eliminating mistakes, this experience offers the mentee knowledge that it otherwise couldn’t obtain for making wise and effective decisions. Going along with experience, a mentor has credibility. Chances are the mentor you picked was selected because you noticed what he has already accomplished, and you desire similar success. This credibility is important because it serves as reassurance for the mentee that he is receiving proper advice.
A mentor is an important asset for everybody to have because a mentor offers different points of view. It is simply immature to make an important decision without consulting the other side of the equation. A mentor can offer insights on opposing views and why a different approach to the decision may result in greater success in the long run.
Mentors have the wisdom and ability to ask the hard questions. It is easy for an individual to skip over specific parts of their development and ignore certain aspects of their life because they do not feel like dealing with it. A mentor can see through our disguise and pinpoint what problems the mentee has not yet solved and push us to become better people.
Finally, mentors inspire us. When we are frustrated and feel ready to quit, knowing that there is someone in your corner can rejuvenate your ambitions. It also provides us with a model for making the right decisions in difficult situations. Now that you know what a mentor is and why a mentor is important, we will dig deeper into finding a mentor in the different aspects of life.
How to Find a Mentor in Life
Before you go out and attempt to find yourself a mentor, you have to take a few preparing steps.
- Why do you want a mentor? Mentors are likely to shut you down if you approach them without a cause. It is not because they don’t like you, it’s just that if you don’t have a desire to learn it won’t inspire them to teach. Knowing what it is that you would like to learn from a mentor will help both you and your mentor stay on track for accomplishing your goal.
Keep in mind that there is no “right answer” for the question of “what do I want to learn?” It could be that you want to learn how to better manage relationships with those around you, want to improve your overall health, want to pick up better study habits, or even learn how to let go of your insecurities and begin to enjoy your life.
- Know your strengths and weaknesses. Being able to say “these are things that I’m good at and would like to build progress towards” and “these are the things that I am bad at and want to stop them from prohibiting my happiness” is half of the battle. Since you know yourself better than any third party observer possibly could, coming to your mentor with knowledge of your strengths and weaknesses will promote efficiency by saving a lot of time. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses will also aid the mentor in building a personalized sequence of actions for your success.
- Seek out a potential mentor. Now that you know what it is that you would like to learn and what your strengths and weaknesses are, it is time to seek out potential mentors that could be right for you. An important thing to keep in mind is that the age and gender of a mentor doesn’t matter. In most cases, a mentor is usually older, but you can have a mentor younger than you.
The highest success rate of having someone say “yes, I will be your mentor” is if the individual is somebody that you already know. This will allow you to truly be yourself and be open with your mentor so you can achieve the maximum amount of growth.
It is best if you do not select somebody who is an authority figure in your life. It isn’t that that person cannot teach you, but it is hard to truly be open with those that are in charge of your employment, grades, household, etc. Looking to a family friend or teammate are both good options since both are people that you already know but aren’t holding authority over you.
If you cannot find someone that you already know, don’t worry! Asking people that you know for references is always a good option since their network of contact will always be different than your own.
If you decide that you would like to seek out a mentor out without the referral of a friend, then you should go somewhere or try something new. There will always be wise and intelligent people around every corner, you just have to go around that corner to find them.
If you aren’t the type that finds socializing easy, you can always seek out a mentor that is not there in front of you. Books, podcasts, and online programs (we will get more into later) are always an option if you do not have the time to spare to seek a physical mentor out.
- Establish a connection with your mentor. This is probably the trickiest step for a mentee to pursue because it requires doing two things that almost contradict one another.
- An organic relationship must be developed. The best mentorships take place when the mentor and mentee are both comfortable with one another and want to be a part of the mentorship. The best way to do this is to start the relationship off slowly and enjoy the time being spent. Not every conversation has to be about the mentee improving and the mentors success stories, pretend that neither of you has an obligation to be in the relationship and see how the conversation develops from there.
- Prepare for the meeting. Give your potential mentor a phone call or meet with them in person to have a professional conversation. During that conversation you should explain why you want them to be your mentor, what you are willing to do, how you will communicate, where you will meet, how to measure results, and what is in the relationship for the mentor. This obviously requires prior planning, so make sure you have prepared to make the relationship as clear as possible.
- Allow yourself to be mentored. Now that you have a mentor, it is time for you to hold up to your end of the bargain by being open to growth. This will require the mentee to honestly answer any questions that the mentor asks and to listen to the feedback that the mentor gives. It is easy to quickly jump to defending yourself if the mentor criticizes you, but remember that this criticism is why you sought a mentor in the first place.
Listen to the advice that your mentor gives you and do the best you can to replicate the mentor’s words in your actions. If you blow off the advice, there is no point to the mentorship, and both of you are wasting your limited time. Make sure to ask your mentor any questions that you have, they will be pleased to see that you are also actively participating in your learning process.
- Pay them back. Show your gratitude to your mentor by asking them if there is anything that you can help them with. Tell your peers about how helpful your mentor is being. However, the best way to pay a mentor back is to show them that their time is not being wasted by continuing to improve yourself.
- Be your own mentor. Know that your mentor has a life of his own and may not always be available for your counseling. The number one sign of growth is independence, show that you can be much like your mentor in your own way. Apply his teachings to your life, and mentor others when you feel you are ready.
How to Find a Mentor in Business
A mentor in the world of business can make a huge impact on whether an individual is able to reach a desired position. The following seven steps will explain how you can find your own business mentor.
- Why do you want a business mentor? To answer this question, you must first think about what your business objectives are. Are they to secure a certain job, earn a higher salary, increase your sales numbers, own your own business, or move up in your company?
When determining why you want a mentor, pay attention to which reasons are wants and which reasons are needs. Identifying wants versus needs is important because it will help clarify your course of action and which mentor to choose. Also, determine what type of resource(s) are you in need of. Is it financial advice, networking contacts, experience, etc.?
- Research potential mentors. This is likely the most important because the world of business is so vast, and it is relatively easy to collect information on people. We will break our research up into two categories: online and offline.
- Online. One of the most accurate and widely used internet resources for business research is LinkedIn. On LinkedIn, you can view your potential mentor’s education, job experience, career highlights, and their connections. It is best if you connect with your potential mentor on LinkedIn first if the option is available. There are plenty of digitalized Business Journals that correspond with your area, so do some research to find what companies and workers are the top performers in your industry.
Look to see if there are any interviews from your potential mentor to get a feel for what their vision is and how they tend to answer questions. If you come across a personal website, make sure to check out so that you can evaluate information to support why or why not this individual would be a good fit as your mentor!
- Offline. When it comes to meeting business executives offline, the possibilities are nearly endless. Keep an eye out for and attend industry-specific events. When at these events, you should socialize with others and ask questions. If you are going to the event to get a chance to meet someone specific, make sure you go introduce yourself. One of the best sources for finding a business mentor that most people overlook is: your company’s competition. A lot can be learned from people you are competing against, and they can serve as valuable connections to you.
Look for a potential mentor at community groups as well as your local Chamber of Commerce. Your Chamber of Commerce is a great place to find a mentor since it is known as a collaborative environment functioning as a place for business growth. Finding a potential mentor here should be relatively easy and straight forward in comparison to other places. You can always pay for a mentor or ask an associate for a reference.
- Contact your potential mentor. If you have not yet met your potential mentor, a cold e-mail or call is a great option for getting in the door. In your contact, you should make a point to introduce yourself, explain why you are calling, ask a question if you have one, and attempt to set up a next step.
Like everything in the world of business, this should be a contact that has organized preparation behind it. Communicating with your potential mentor in person is always the best option. Prepare for this as you would a phone call or e-mail. Try asking them questions as you would in an interview and take notes on how they answer your questions.
Do not come out and ask if they will be your mentor yet, but make it clear that you respect this person as a professional and feel as though you can learn something from them. If you think this person will be a good fit, schedule a future meeting time. Make sure you always make an effort to travel to a location of their convenience if your meeting is in person.
- Post-contact evaluation. This is a personal step that should be completed by just you or a trusted friend and you. Look through your notes and categorize the positives and negatives of each potential mentor you talked with. Narrow your list down to a few mentors. Keep in mind that the mentor’s personality and how well the two of you communicate is very important.
When you have reached your shortlist of potential mentors, pick one or multiple to continue forward as your business mentor. There is no law stating that you can only have one!
- Be mentored. Now that you have found the mentor that is right for you, formalize your mentorship. Again, you do not have to ask “Will you be my mentor?”. In most cases this phrase could come out a little awkward. You should aim to be straight forward with the idea that you would like to continuously meet with them in the future and talk about how to achieve your business objectives from Step 1.
Be open to growth when communicating with your mentor and while working on your own. This may entail taking criticism on many aspects of your career, so make sure you listen to what your mentor is communicating to you.
Be sure to take notes on any advice or direction that is given, it is your responsibility to retain what is discussed with your mentor, not theirs. Expect and be ready to take on tasks outside of your job description. If your mentor thinks a training course or doing more public speaking will help you accomplish your goals, then hear him out.
Finally, talk with your mentor about how to measure your results. What will reflect that you have made growth while specifically using your mentor’s advice? Ask any questions that you may have.
- Give back to your mentor. Your mentor is giving up time that could be spent generating revenue or with their family. Let your mentor know that you are always available for giving them advice if they need it and are willing to help out with a task.
A great way to pay your mentor back is to write them a recommendation on LinkedIn. Doing so will help improve their credibility with their connections as well as push your name into the view of who’s looking at your mentor’s profile. Be a resource to your mentor, not a mouth to feed.
It is in your best interest to find a business mentor outside of your office, and that is not an authority figure to you. However, there are a few pointers to go over for how to find a mentor at work if you decide to search in the office. The best thing that you can do is ask your co-worker questions: “How did you start brainstorming ideas for that project? How did you overcome obstacle X? Where did you find that information on Z?” The best times to ask the questions would be over lunch or at some break where it is evident that your mentor is not busy.
Once you have asked questions about their performance, ask for advice regarding your performance. Ask your mentor or a decision maker within the company if you could work more closely with your mentor. Write them a recommendation on LinkedIn describing your experience while working with them.
How to Find a Mentor in College
Finding a mentor in college can be a very useful tool for students who are looking to put themselves in the right direction. Since college is a place designed for learning and mentorship, the process of finding a mentor will look slightly different that the steps in the other sections.
- Why do you want a mentor? A college is a place where many different people are traveling around attempting to accomplish all sorts of valuable goals. A mentor in college doesn’t just mean looking for someone to help you raise your GPA (though it could).
Students are usually after a variety of different things at various time periods of their collegiate career. A student could be looking for a mentor that will give them experience in their major, or perhaps experience in something that they would like to explore further. You could seek out a mentor because you would like to secure a specific job or internship for the next semester.
Perhaps your reasoning is broader and along the lines of finding somebody to aid you in building your network of contacts. Maybe you want to build the social aspect of your life and are seeking out a mentor to make some new friends or become a more recognized member of the community.
A mentor could even be useful for keeping you on track to meeting your athletic goals. College is a place where you can improve almost anything about yourself, so first decide what purpose your mentor will serve.
- Find your passion. Before you can begin to seek out a mentor, you must commit yourself to finding out what your passion is. Professors and advisors cannot find your passion for you, it is up to you to seek out what areas of life interest you.
- Academic. Finding out and exploring your academic passion is what the purpose of college is all about. Attend interest groups and do research online if you need further exposure to your possible options. It is very important to find out what this passion is before you seek out a mentor because if you aren’t fully committed to learning what your mentor is teaching, the mentor will be able to tell. Nobody wants to help a student who isn’t passionate about the material.
- Athletic. All of the world’s health officials will tell you that is healthy for a young adult to engage in some sort of physical activity. However, some people were not built to be passionate about specific types of activities. Find your passions: Does it revolve around competitive environments like intramurals? Would you rather do introverted activities like running or swimming? Do combat sports interest you?
- Seek out potential mentors. Before you go out and ask somebody to be your mentor, do your research. The best way to start is by paying attention to the other students in your classes as well as your professors. Who is portraying qualities that you respect and would like to replicate?
Fellow students and TA’s are a great option for finding a mentor. However, the professor that is in charge of the class is also a great option for a mentor. If you like what a professor is saying and want to learn more about them, go visit them at their office hours.
Extracurricular activities are also a great resource for finding potential mentors. People involved in clubs are there because they have a passion for something and want to work with others who also share this passion.
Campus talks are one of the most underrated but highly helpful places for finding a mentor. You have the opportunity to hear an expert talk about their findings on a particular subject. Feel free to hang back after the talk and introduce yourself to the speaker.
Your academic advisor is also a great option for a mentor. They know the ins-and-outs of moving a student to the next part of their career. You can also talk with your advisor about your goal of finding a mentor. They may be able to recommend professors, alumni, or even a campus mentorship program.
Former bosses and supervisors from internships and jobs make very suitable mentors. Seek them out to talk about your passion and if they know of any way to align your passion with your goals.
An RA is always a great choice. They have gone through many interview processes and have received training on how to help the upcoming college students succeed. If you are looking for a mentor to help you improve your social life, an RA is a great option. Finally, check out various campus activities and socialize with others!
- Being Mentored. If you are nervous about asking someone on your campus to be your mentor, don’t be! College is designed for mentorships to form, and the worst thing that could happen is somebody saying “Sorry, I do not have time right now.” Most college employees have chosen their career because they have a passion to help the youth, take advantage of that.
Once you have a mentor, allow your relationship to form naturally. Express your interest in what you would like to learn from your mentor, but in reality, college is a four-year journey at the minimum, so take your time. You should have a good idea of how you will communicate and where you will meet, but the most important part of this mentorship is to be around your mentor whenever possible.
Most mentors at college will be “hands off” mentors. This means that they will give you advice when you ask, but you probably won’t find a mentor who will give you a step by step plan to accomplishing your goals.
- Give back. Whether your mentor is a professor, an RA, a fellow student, or an alumni, there is always a way to give back to your mentor. You could ask your professor if they need help with a research project or provide feedback on their teachings. You could write a LinkedIn recommendation for an alumni. You could ask your advisor if you could be a spokesman on the importance of utilizing college programs. The possibilities for giving back to your mentor are endless, all you have to do is ask.
Finding a Career Mentor
Identifying a career mentor is a valuable asset for anybody in the workplace. They are important because you can bounce your ideas regarding a change in your career off of your mentor, and they will respond with years of wisdom and experience. Having a second set of eyes watching over you as you travel can put an individual at ease as he navigates between jobs and conference calls.
- Why do you want a mentor? Like every other section of this article, the first step to finding a mentor is to identify the reasons why you want a mentor. Do you want a mentor to help you reach a certain position within a company? Aid you in safely relocating to a job in a warmer climate? Help you manage your finances throughout your career?
When picking your personal reasons and goals for seeking out a mentor, come up with answers to the following questions: What are my goals and where do I want to be in 1 year from now? What are my goals and where do I want to be in 5 years from now? What are my goals and where do I want to be by the end of my career? Make sure to come up with answers to these questions before moving on to the next step because they will become valuable tools for finding and communicating with your mentor.
- Perform a SWOT analysis. In case you are not familiar with the term SWOT, it is an acronym for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. Think through each category and apply it to all aspects of your life.
Identifying your strengths is important because it gives you something to build off of and use for accomplishing your goals. Identifying your weaknesses is important because it allows you to be conscious of what could hold you back from accomplishing your goals as well as provides a list of things to improve upon.
Identifying your opportunities is important because it allows you to put all of your relevant and possible options on a sheet of paper. This will allow you to think clearly about which opportunities in your life are positive ones and which ones could be negative. Identifying your threats is important because it allows you to have an understanding of all things that could get in your way when accomplishing your goals.
- Finding a potential mentor. When looking for a potential mentor, refer back to the questions you have answered in step 1.
One-year mentor: The best option for finding a mentor that will help you accomplish your one-year goals are those working above you in your current company. Sure, it may be impossible to ask the CEO of the company to be your mentor, but a direct manager is always a great option.
Tell them what your goals and objectives are. Since this mentor will be aiding you with your one-year goals, any plan of action made can be started that day. Seeking out higher level executives in your industry is also a viable option. Make sure your goals are realistic enough to allow you to begin accomplishing them right away.
Five-year mentor. A five-year mentor is one of the most commonly skipped mentors but arguably the most important. A five-year mentor is helping you plan far enough out to allow you to pick an exciting goal, but short enough out to keep your expectations realistic.
Former bosses are great for being a five-year mentor if they have experience in your industry. They likely have connections and advice to give about moving companies and making strategic decisions. You already know them pretty well so spending an hour a month shouldn’t be that stressful for either of you. Executives outside of your employment history are good options. These executives can be found at trade shows or networking events. Connect with them to talk about what your next move is.
End of career mentor. Your final mentor will be a very important teacher in your life. They will help you see how your current decisions could affect you in the long run. You want to pick somebody with financial and networking credibility. The last thing you want is somebody without a successful track record coaching you for making long-term decisions.
The best people for an end of career mentor are CEOs. CEOs have gone through many long fought battles to be in the position they are today. They can put you in contact with the right people to make your next twenty moves and help you understand your market better. Take the advice they give you about how to put yourself in a similar position as them.
- Contacting. Much like the initial contact from the previous sections, make sure you thoroughly prepare before you contact your potential mentor. Know what you want to ask your mentor and why you want them to be your mentor. Clarify your objectives to them and attempt to create value. A career mentor isn’t just there for your career, but you are also there for theirs. Talk with your mentor about how you can create value for them.
The most important thing is to let your relationship grow at the appropriate pace. If you and your mentor are hitting it off right away, great. If not, do not attempt to rush things. You will have many mentors over your career, and you have a long time before your career ends. Do not rush the relationship. Remember: relevance is everything when talking with a potential mentor.
- Being mentored. Talking with your career mentor about how the logistics of the mentorship will play out. When, where, and how will you meet/communicate? It is very likely that you or your mentor’s career will take one of you to a different area of the world. In-person coffee may not always be an option.
As always, make sure you are organized; otherwise you are just wasting both of your time. Discuss with your mentor how the advice they are giving you aligns with meeting your next objective. Make sure to always analyze the advice that they give you. This is your career you are talking about, not theirs. Make sure you are doing what feels right for you. Finally, do not just take advice from the most famous name that you can find. Learn about your mentor and really respect them.
- Give back. Creating value for your mentor may not be enough. Check in with your mentors throughout your career to see if there is anything that you can do for them. You want to keep these people thinking positively about you because they will serve as a valuable part of your network. Who knows, one of these mentors may end up being one of your employees someday.
How to Find a Mentor Online
Finding a mentor amongst your social circles or in your professional life may not always be a possibility. Fortunately, many online websites have been created for the purpose of connecting mentors with mentees. The following websites have a passion for connecting young mentees with the appropriate mentor to achieve maximum mentee growth.
- http://www.micromentor.org/ – Micromentor is one of the top websites for connecting mentees to mentors. Its main focus is creating an environment where entrepreneurs can connect with other business owners and executives to give and receive advice on their business. It is seen in magazines such as Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and Entrepreneur Magazine.
- www.score.org – SCORE is a great business development mentoring website that covers all aspects of business. From marketing to finance, you can find expert mentors to guide you through your career. It leverages one on one mentoring that is started through a matchmaking process.
- www.mentoron.com – Mentoron is a unique mentorship website that uses a social media aspect. It is the only social media mentor website so far. It matches you with mentors/mentees based upon a wide variety of criteria such as interests, education, experience, etc. Mentoron covers mentoring for all areas of life, personal and professional.
- www.findamentor.com – Findamentor is an all-purpose mentoring website that seeks to match mentees with mentors. The mentoring section is free; however you can get yourself an online coach for a fee from Findamentor. The websites goal is to reach one million mentors and is well on its way.
- www.studentmentor.org – Studentmentor is a website designed to provide college students with the advice they need. It focuses on education but also helps students to get information and advice for opportunities outside of college. Studentmentor has high up connections; it is even supported by the Whitehouse!
- www.mentoring.org – Mentoring.org has a passion for connecting youth with mentors to guide them through their development. If you are a minor, sign up to receive advice from successful adults. If you are an adult with a passion to help the youth, sign up to start guiding them today.
- www.withoutafather.com – Withoutafather is a website for youth who have lost a parent throughout their life. This website seeks to support that child with mentors looking to give them advice. It is also for children whose dreams and passions have not yet been acknowledged by their parents.
LinkedIn is also a great resource for finding online mentors. Simply search through project management and leadership groups to find professionals willing to help. Post questions on the board to create conversation. When you find somebody giving you good advice, invite them to connect with you!
How to Find a Spiritual Mentor
So far throughout this article we have taken a look at finding a mentor in our professional life, college life, and online life. Now we will dive into finding a mentor for the spiritual and intangible side of things. Many of the steps are congruent with previous sections, however, some details of each step are different.
- Why do you want a mentor? There are numerous potential reasons as to why someone would want to seek out a potential mentor. Before you begin your quest for a mentor, consider what it is that you would like to learn. Do you desire a deeper connection with a higher power? Are you looking for inner peace? Do you want to help the needy? Whatever your reason for seeking out a mentor is, make sure you define it so you can target the appropriate mentor for you.
- Search for potential mentors. Though a spiritual mentor can come in many different shapes and sizes, there are a few places where there is a high success rate for finding a good mentor. Churches and congregations are some of the best places for finding a spiritual mentor. A church is filled with people who are also looking to bring spirituality forward in their life.
A mentor could be a pastor, rabbi, father, etc. Though the head of a religious church is always a good option for being your mentor, lower level people within the church are also viable candidates.
Other non-religious, spiritual communities are great places for finding a mentor. There are spiritual retreats that you can attend to get introduced into a spiritual community, connecting with a guide on one of these retreats can also be a good option for finding a mentor. Charity organizations revolve around selfless people who find it more important to help others who do not have an equal opportunity than focusing on themselves.
A mentor could also be somebody in your personal life such as a family member or friend. Your mentor could be somebody you do not have access to or isn’t even alive! Reading the authorship of spiritually inclined individuals can shed a lot of light on our daily struggles.
- Research potential mentors. Once you have found a few people who seem like they could be a good fit as your mentor, the research begins. There are many questions you should be looking to answer when looking into a mentor; we will go into some of the major ones.
What is their definition of spirituality? Each mentor’s view of what spirituality is may be different. Before you ask somebody to be your mentor make sure that you appreciate what their idea of spirituality is.
What are their common values? Not understanding a mentor’s values could lead to problems down the road. Common values could be things such as integrity, leadership, pity, and humility. There are a lot of variations of values in this world so make sure you agree and respect your mentor’s common values.
Are the teachings and personal actions of the mentor consistent? The last thing you want is to follow the teachings of a mentor then come to find out that the mentor doesn’t apply the teachings to his own life. Talk to people who have had a deeper connection with the mentor than you have to get a feel for their experience with them.
How do they treat their students? Talk to people who work with the mentor to get a feel for how the mentor treats his other mentees. Do you want to be treated like how the other mentees describe it?
Do they have time for you? Your potential mentor may or may not have time for you. Try to get a sense of what their schedule is like before become too set on a specific mentor.
- Being mentored. Now that you have done your research on your mentor, it is time to finally start being mentored. The key thing to keep in mind is that the relationship between your mentor and you needs to be formed organically. This should happen since you have already found a mentor that matches your common values and definition of spirituality, but make sure not to rush anything.
Treat your meetings as you would an interview: show up on time, know what you want to ask, be prepared to answer any difficult questions, take notes, and discuss how you will measure results. When talking with your mentor, be completely open. There is no sense in holding anything back from your mentorship because doing so will only result in a lower efficiency in improvement. Your mentor knows that you are not perfect, don’t pretend to be, just be yourself and tell the truth.
When discussing your problems and anxieties with your mentor, listen to the feedback. If he tells you to consider doing X and Y, then do so. If your mentor tells you that your worry is not something in your realm of control and to let it go, do so. You have chosen this mentor to be your council because they have a heightened aptitude for spirituality and decision making, let them help you make decisions.
If your mentor is giving a sermon or is partaking in some sort of public event, you should make an effort to be in attendance. Though much can be learned from your mentor when interacting one on one, even more can be learned by watching how your mentor teaches others.
- Self-steps. Your mentor may not always be available when you want to meet, or you may have a troubling issue arise in your life between meeting times. It will sometimes fall upon you to mentor yourself and seek mentoring outside of your meetings.
When confronted with a situation in which it is impossible to seek the council of your mentor think: what would my mentor do in this situation? While working with your mentor, you develop a sense of their overall decision making and slowly gain an ability to predict what advice your mentor would give. Use this to your best judgement when confronted with a situation.
Prayer and meditation are also both reliable tools when working outside of your mentor. Sometimes just clearing your head and focusing will make the answer you seek become evident.
Reading scripture and works from other spiritual figures throughout history can give us some guidance and peace of mind. Sometimes we just want to know if somebody else has experienced what we are going through. Lastly, surrounding yourself with others who have a focus on spirituality can help you maintain your clarity when your mentor is unavailable.
- Give back. Giving back refers to both aiding your mentor and giving back to spirituality as a whole. Ask your mentor if there is anything they need assistance with in their life. If your mentor is one of the few who has everything under control, seek to give back to spirituality as a whole by mentoring others.
How to Find a Millionaire Mentor
Finding a mentor in the various areas of life require a variety of different approaches and looking in the right places. Now, we will tackle one of the most difficult mentors – the millionaire.
- Why do you want to be mentored? Believe it or not, there is more to this answer than “I also want to be a millionaire”. Having a millionaire as your mentor and having the desire to be successful is great, but what specifically do you want help on from the millionaire? Is it to expand your network of contacts? Are you looking for employment? Do you want decision-making guidance? Or do you want the opportunity to pitch your business plan? Whatever your motivation is for seeking out a millionaire mentor make sure you define it before moving on.
- Research potential mentors. Finding information on potential mentors is a big part of the battle. If you do not have any connections to any millionaire mentors, try looking around on www.eventualmillionaire.com. Finding a millionaire is simpler than you think.
First, pick the industry of business that is what you are seeking guidance in. Second, conduct internet searches on top companies within that industry. Third, conduct searches on each company to get a list of the top executives in each company. Also, try running internet searches for millionaires within your area, having the opportunity to meet a millionaire face to face is a big up in collecting them as your mentor.
- Plan your approach. In most cases, cold calling a millionaire mentor and asking for help is a sure fire way of getting rejected. Contacting a millionaire mentor requires a plan of action. Following your mentor on social media and connecting with them on LinkedIn is a good way for them to get introduced to your name. Retweet their tweets and comment on their LinkedIn discussions, the more that you display that you want to be involved with them, the better.
Registering as a reporter is a very strategic approach for becoming connected with a millionaire. Once you are signed up, plan out what questions you would like to ask the millionaire and how you will go about contacting them. Interviews are great because it also offers the millionaire some value: publicity.
- Contacting your millionaire mentor. A cold email explaining who you are and why you would like to conduct an interview with your potential mentor is a minimum-risk approach. An email will be a better option than a phone call because an email will allow the mentor to get to your message when the time it is convenient for them. If things are going well for you on your social media campaign of getting your millionaires attention, try direct messaging them and asking if they have a few minutes to talk.
If neither of these methods are working, you can always attend a networking event that is relevant to your millionaire. If your millionaire is in attendance, make a point to introduce yourself and ask for a few minutes of their time. Offering to pay for their time means a great deal to millionaires since in most people want some form of payment from them.
If your millionaire was not in attendance, try asking around about your millionaire and socialize. Who knows, you may even find another millionaire at the event.
- Deepening the relationship. Once you have talked to your potential mentor, think about the information that you have collected and how you can collect better information next time. Plan out questions that are more detail specific and revolve around certain incidents in the millionaire’s life. Try not to be extremely reliant on the script, because you don’t want to be stuck and tongue tied if the conversation goes in a different direction than you planned.
To get a millionaire in front of you again, offer to take them out to dinner or throw a party inviting the millionaire and his friends. It may be easier to penetrate into the mentor’s free time than work day depending on who you are targeting.
- Seek guidance. Once you have established a relationship with the millionaire and have collected information on them, offer to exchange a few hours a week of your time for the mentor’s guidance. Since you are offering a trade of time for time, a mentor is likely to accept your offer.
Try not to become too dependent on your millionaire’s guidance and approval, but make sure to show your support. Send an occasional email asking if there is any way you can help
Showing up at an industry event that you know your millionaire mentor is attending is a very strategic move. Do not shadow over them, but occasionally approach them and ask if you can be of assistance, or if they could introduce you to someone. Once you have a millionaire as a mentor, it is way easier to get connected with more millionaires.
- Give back. Now, you may have made an arrangement with the millionaire mentor in which you offer something in exchange for guidance, but there is more you can do to give back. Keep an ear out for information that may have some connection with your mentor or their business.
A millionaire may not have time to read the local news, so if you can provide them with relevant information, it would be a big help. If you know somebody that is interested in doing business with your mentor, ask your mentor if you could set up a meeting. Going above and beyond like this could result in the millionaire providing an opportunity for you.
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